Here’s how: Take a deep breath, pay full attention to the one who is asking for your attention. When thoughts of “I have other things I need to be doing” or “I don’t really agree with what he is saying” start to arise, come back to full attention.
Other tricks: See your loved one as if it is the first time you have ever seen them. This mindfulness trick known as “beginner’s mind” comes in especially handy if your loved one is telling a story you heard (many times) before.
Feeling frustrated? Take a deep inhale and a longer exhale, and remember what a tremendous and generous gift you are giving when you practice rapt attention.
We wish you twenty minutes of mindfulness every day!