Self-Care September – Tip #8: Reflect with self-compassion

imagesAt sundown this evening the Jewish high holiday Rosh Hashanah begins, and marks the beginning of ten days to reflect on the past year.  Even though I was raised Catholic, and I’m now a Unitarian/Buddhist/Pagan…. something, I’ve always liked this idea of taking time to reflect.  Reflection at its best gives us a chance to stop and consider whether we are living a life that is meaningful and energizing to ourselves and the lives of those around us.  Reflection can have a dark side, however, if we use it as a weapon of self-loathing and regret.

One of the main goals of mindfulness is ending suffering for ourselves and others.  By taking time to reflect, and redirect in a self-compassionate way, we are more likely to learn from misguided action.  Shame and harsh judgement usually lead to more misguided action.  On the other hand a little guilt or sadness tempered with mindfulness and self-compassion usually leads to the ability to move onward and upward.

Let’s use the start of the Days of Awe as an opportunity to reflect with self-compassion.images-1

On my way to work this morning I heard a great report on NPR about a project called 10Q -Ten Days, Ten Questions.  It’s a chance for you to take the next ten days to reflect.  The answers to your questions are recorded online.  They can remain private or you can share.  In ten days your answers go away and will be mailed back to you at the start of Rosh Hashanah 2015.  Check it out.

We wish you twenty minutes of mindfulness every day!

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