Letting Go Project Day Twenty-Two ~ Let go of criticism and praise

In our goal-driven world it is very easy to get caught up in outcomes.  Realistically, our ‘output’ is always being measured.  We have quotas at work, and expectations from family and friends.  As if that weren’t enough, we can get caught up in the joy-stealing process of comparing ourselves to others.   As social creatures we  often look for feedback outside of ourselves.  This is normal and natural.  But the process of seeking praise can throw us off-balance and make us forget our true intentions.  Why do we do what we do every day?  Is it to get approval?  This may be partially and necessarily true, but what are we really trying to achieve?

“You will always be getting praise and blame, but do not let either affect the poise of the mind: follow the calmness, the absence of pride.”

— Sutta Nipata

Here’s today’s Letting exercise – Practice equanimity:

1.  Equanimity is a core mindfulness skill.  Take a moment to take in the meaning of equanimity.  The word describes the unattached awareness of one’s experience as a result of perceiving the impermanence of momentary reality. It is a peace of mind and abiding calmness that cannot be shaken by any grade of circumstance, either fortunate or unfortunate.

2.  To help with practicing equanimity in any situation, remind yourself of the true intention of your actions.

3. When you find yourself being evaluated or criticised for being an imperfect human, notice any negative feelings that arise, breathe, and remember your intention.

4.  You might ask why you need to use this practice for praise as well as blame.  The answer is to remember impermanence.  Today’s praise might be tomorrow’s blame.  So, certainly savor and ‘take in’ praise, as Rick Hanson suggests, but don’t let it obscure your intentions.

Practice equanimity all day today.  Notice if you feel calmer and lighter at the end of the day.

 

We wish you twenty minutes of mindfulness every day!

3 thoughts on “Letting Go Project Day Twenty-Two ~ Let go of criticism and praise

  1. lee says:

    …and expectations of ourselves. Needed precisely this today. Woke to find it in my mail file, as though you were reading my mind. Thanks.

    1. mindfulhub says:

      Glad you found the exercise helpful… We will get into more detail about self-criticism before the letting go project is over…. stay-tuned!

      Donna

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