Letting Go Project Day Thirteen ~ let go of taking yourself too seriously – practice carefreeness

Every once in a while my kids will have ‘pajama day’ at school.  I always envy them on PJ day.  It reminds me of when I was in

remeber pajama day?college, and we would roll out bed and drive to our favorite breakfast joint dressed in our sweatshirts and flannel bottoms, without a care for what our fellow diners thought of us.

Seriousness is so often our attempt to feel important.  It’s a product of the ego that steals joy.  We worry that if we are not perfectly mannered and proper, we won’t be taken seriously.  In fact applying small doses of carefreeness gives those around us the permission to feel carefree.  This is a quality that most people enjoy and admire, and may even help us to be seen and heard the way we are seeking to be

Ah… to be carefree again.  Well it turns out that being carefree takes practice, and mindfulness can help.

Here’s today’s letting go exercise:

1.  This one is best done in your jammies, but if you are in your suit already, it’s okay.  Stand up, inhale while lifting your arms overhead, the bend at the waist and exhale.  Do this five times.  To give this exercise a power boost, make some noise on your exhale.

2.  Now, think of a time when you felt carefree.  It’s okay if you have to look back a couple of months, or years.  What were the qualities of your carefree time?  Who were you with?  Use your senses to recreate the scene.  Where you on the beach? in a restaurant?  What were the smells, sounds, even air quality?

3.  What else was going on in your life at the time?   Chances are, your life was not perfect, but you were unconsciously choosing to focus on the feeling of carefreeness.  I can think of a day last August when I went for a bike ride with my husband and two boys.  We had just moved and were still in boxes, and feeling ungrounded.  Life was surely not perfect, but the bike ride was sublime.  It was on a conservation trail in our new town, along a tidal river.  The air was warm and breezy, and I chose to focus on the delights of the day, not the unpacked boxes at home.

4.  Practice taking breaks from seriousness a few times today. Consciously work on flexing your carefree muscle, even for a few minutes.  Seriousness is so often our attempt to feel important.  It’s a product of the ego that steals joy.   We worry that if we are not perfectly mannered and proper, we won’t be taken seriously.  In fact applying small doses of carefreeness gives those around us the permission to feel carefree.  This is a quality that most people enjoy and admire.

These monks practice mindfulness 24/7 yet they are rarely seen looking too serious.

 

Try being mindfully carefree today.

 

We wish you twenty minutes of mindfulness every day!

 

 

 

 

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