Feeling Left Behind

Personal growth doesn’t always respect our time table.  The job promotion we didn’t get, the best friend that moves away, the team we didn’t make, the invitation that didn’t come or that we could not accept.  Opportunities come and go so fast in our modern culture, we can sometimes feel a little frantic when we are not “keeping up.”

If you are feeling disappointed, maybe even envious, because of a “missed” opportunity, it is a good time to apply mindfulness.  Here are three mindfulness tips that can help you feel like you are in the right place at the right time.

1.  Name your emotion.  Saying quietly to yourself,” I am disappointed,” “I am jealous,” or “I am frustrated,” can help you register in your mind and in your body that these feelings are temporary.

2.  Conditions are not right.  Noting that now may not be the best time for the change you desire, can stop you from blaming yourself, and will help you start to formulate plan B with self-compassion.

3.  Clear your mind.  When things don’t go the way we plan, we tend to obsess about “what went wrong.”  Take five minutes to focus on the breath, gently bringing your thoughts back if they stray.  Remember that your mindfulness practice will boost your ability to gain insight in any situation, promoting a sense of calm and well-being, even in imperfect times.

Still feeling left behind?  Check out these posts on disappointment, and rejection.  Print and post our new worksheet on self-compassion.

We wish you twenty minutes of mindfulness every day!



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